When I was a little girl I had this picture perfect idea of how my life would turn out. First it was college; I would get a degree and find a job that was satisfying and totally devoted to the lives of others. I wanted to write. I wanted people to find a friend within the pages. After college I would get married and have wonderfully perfect children that did everything I said and we would be a family that was the envy of the block. The picture I painted for my life ended up with a few extra strokes of the brush I hadn’t plan. I ended up getting married just after my first year of college. My husband and I were not alone as we started out life together, our daughter Melia had been born eight months before our wedding. Three years later we ended up with two more little blessings (less than two years apart).
So in just a few short years my direction of life had to change. I was determined to finish my degree and so I decided to juggle being a wife, mother and student. My life became extremely chaotic. I found myself changing diapers, cooking, cleaning, cuddling, giving baths, providing nap times while also trying desperately to finish homework assignments and attending classes. I ended up stressed and unhappy. One afternoon I found myself steaming mad, nothing was getting done. The laundry was still pilled high (so were the dishes), I could smell a rotten stench coming from my daughters diaper, crushed cereal was sticking to my feet, the essay due tomorrow was still not done, and my hubby would be home soon expecting dinner. I snapped and ended up yelling at my children, something I told myself I would never do. Sitting down I told myself this is not the way it should be (more importantly this is not the way God wanted it to be) so I made the decision to find joy when and wherever I could, I would live joyfully. I would take every day slowly telling myself if that load of laundry didn’t get done because my girls wanted a book read to them, so be it! And so through this blog I will be posting where joy can be found. Now I can’t guarantee I will have a post every week. But I will as often as I can. I will start in a few days. When I will tell you the thing that keeps me joyful, even when I have found crushed cereal in the carpet I just vacuumed or when I receive a quiz with a big fat D on the top. It’s the only kind of joy that last a life time (and beyond)…so keep in touch.
What a wonderful reminder!! Thanks for sharing Andrea!!
ReplyDeleteYou're on your way to being a great writer. I love the way this article is so candid yet simple. I wish I would have learned this lesson about joy years ago! Thanks for sharing it in such a creative way. I'm soooo thankful that you and Ken are friends with Mathew and Felicia. What a blessing you are to them. You have such a wonderful family and your daughters are absolutely adorable!!! I'm sure you are an awesome Mom in the midst of crushed cereal :). ~ Cindy
ReplyDeletei look forward to reading about your experiences! it's always encouraging to know we are not alone on the journey of motherhood!
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What an amazing discovery you've made! I'm so blessed to hear how you've listened to the Lord and given yourself to His transforming power. Your family will be amazingly blessed throughout the years, and you will have few regrets as the mom-in-residence! This is such an encouragement to me to remember "joy" no matter what. Love you, mom (since my post name seems to be "dane" :)
ReplyDeleteFelicia shared this post, and I knew I had to read it because I struggle to find joy every day in the extreme chaos of our lives. It doesn't help when most of my loved ones repeatedly tell me, "I don't know how you do it/handle it/get through the day/survive." Yeah, really helpful. Still, with the grace of God, I'm able to find joy more and more (and see what I can and need to let go of in order to find the joy).
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What a heart felt incredible story you have to tell! I am so happy to hear how you've decided to make lemonade with your lemons. Stick with it, Andrea, you are an incredible writer!!! Love ya,
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Methinks this blog is entering my feed... sounds like you and I share more than just a few similarities, and I feel I will learn from watching your journey!
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